Retry wasn't working so cancel brought me back to the lobby
If that happens again, you may want to try closing out the game window, without hitting retry or cancel. When my opponents have forfeited during showdowns, that is what I do. Each time, so far, it brings me back to the game reconnect screen, my opponent's time runs out to re-join and I can continue playing, where I left off, and finish the remaining holes.
So far, this seems to be the only "workaround" the "bogey glitch". I have read where this has not worked for others, but it appears to be the best way to deal with the situation.