Go ahead and steal it. 
I've had a bizarre problem for the last 36 hours or so, where I can apparently access any site on the Web except WGTLS. Will try to fix this, because the September League Tables need to be wrapped up & October prepared. Gao, the last few posts I replied to you over there, I typed on my tiny mobile phone keyboard... Now that was a pain!
As to the original poster's concern: there's been an influx of many new members to the Ladders site lately, and many of them don't know the correct procedure. It's an absolute must that at the start of a game, all players must explicitly agree that it's a Ladder game. You can't just assume it's a Ladder game, just because the other player is also registered on that site.
So, if anyone encroaches upon this rule, please report it in the Three Strikes & Down forum, and your loss / Yellow Card will be cancelled. One great Master player from this site got so offended when the same thing happened to him, he asked to be removed from the Ladders (see my Wall). However, that's not a way to solve the issue... If people make a mistake and accuse you unjustly, please don't run away from the site, but report the mistake to the admins & Mark is certain to fix any error in the database.
When it comes to setting up Ladder games, Shtebs, a very good way is the Meet & Greet chatroom on the Ladders site. Someone is usually waiting there, around the clock, available for a game. But, you can simply play with anyone you happen to meet here on the main site, provided they are also Ladder members and the players explicitly agree at the tee of hole 1 that it's a Ladder game. The loser of your game posts the loss, and that's it.