Hey Solarflares...
I read your putting (first) post and it has a lot of similarities with what I am seeing on putts - i read all the threads on putting and none really grabbed me (there are experts out there kindly sharing tips but I didnt get a eureka moment, not yet) so I went to work, exploring putting and making my own conclusions, and now going back to the experts tips, some are starting to make more sense to me now...bit by bit
I got to legend a couple weeks ago (L79) and faced/am facing a few of the same things you are just now. I am still coming to terms to what I want to learn, and how - but its starting to take some shape now.
I got there in around 3-4 months of play (i joined a year ago but stopped playing for a while), and though I play some alt and matchplay, not much, because I want to improve, that is where I get my fun. I find it hard to play a round, or play a shot, and feel that I have not practiced it enough to play my best.
I decided while at TM that the number one thing that I need to improve is putting, that is still a work in progress but I have made some strides in this challenge, I worked on 10ft putts first, and I feel I have some decent approach on that now, but the recent change to tournie greens means a little tweaking. I think to play at the level I want to, I really need to sink 90% of 10 foot putts, and 50% of 20 ft putts, so that is kind of my target, and its a long way off.
I have only played off the tips since legend I see no point of any other tees except to reduce average and feel good, not what I am after. And I agree with what you wrote and was advised, take one step at a time. Pick one course and get as good as you think you should be on it. I am looking at BP (and a bit of SA) and slowly grinding it in practice rounds to work out all its little secrets. When I can hit a regular sub 29 then I will feel I have a handle on it. If i dont get there then I am not working hard enough.
And clubs, a few weeks ago i was on a mission to get to L85 quickly to get the nikes, but I have the L75 speeds and they are ok, not that forgiving, but hey ho. I think I will stick to the speeds and not get the nikes even when I get to L85. There is no secret in wgt. Better clubs may improve my scores a bit but will not make me the player I want to be. If I cant reach my milestones with the speeds then getting better clubs is just an acceptance of failure.
So I am committing to the speeds, to work out all their little secrets too.