I don't usually respond to posts like these, but I was struck by the fact that you just described our country club.
All of our members are friendly and any kind of disrespect toward other members is met with immediate dismissal (therefore, it pretty much never happens). We always have a full slate of tournaments...too many to play actually, so there are always many different winners. Our forum is the most active I've ever seen, too. Every time someone posts a question in our forum, they get multiple answers right away (and many of our members know the answer to pretty much every question).
I'm not trying to sell you on Majestic Mountain. I am just saying that based upon your above desires, it seems like it might be a good fit for you.